My Story

Instead, I kept finding myself in relationships where I was unseen, unsupported, or emotionally neglected. I fell for emotionally unavailable men. I silenced my needs. I stayed too long. I confused chaos with chemistry and I blamed everyone else when it all came crashing down.

It was a slow unraveling. Not one big wake-up call, but a quiet inner knowing that kept whispering, “There must be more than this.”

And so, I began to search.

I studied yoga and became a teacher at 21 years old, before it was mainstream. I traveled the world learning from shamans, healers, and therapists. I studied Eastern and Western practices, academic models, mystical traditions, and the sacred healing arts. I dove headfirst into my healing, not as a hobby, but as a lifeline.

I began to see my patterns clearly: the negative self talk, the lack of boundaries, the fear of abandonment masquerading as love. I met my inner child. I met my shadows. I met the parts of me I had pushed away for years and I started reclaiming them. It took me years and a great deal of self-work to understand my own Relationship Blueprint, nervous system, Forgotten Self, and survival communication patterns. To stop blaming my partners for the storms I hadn’t yet learned to soothe inside myself.

I learned to say no, not with fear, but with peace.
I learned to stay, not in relationships that hurt me, but in my own body.
I learned that love is not something we earn through suffering.
It is something we embody when we finally trust ourselves.

Through the heartbreaks, I built discernment.
Through the loneliness, I discovered self-intimacy.
Through the trauma, I found my power.

It was the quiet courage to sit with myself when I felt unworthy, unseen, or too much.

To stay.

To breathe.

To ask myself: “What would secure love do right now?”

Now, my relationships are built on trust, presence, proven communication skills, and radical acceptance.

Now, in my late 40s, I live with an open heart, rooted in trust and self-respect. I have known the ache of longing and the joy of liberation. I have healed through relationships, both monogamous and polyamorous, and I have learned that intimacy is not something to fear, but about conscious connection and choice.

I don’t need to control others to feel safe. I can speak my truth without shutting down or exploding. I feel abundance, not scarcity in my love life. The most beautiful part?

That compassion I was trying so hard to get from others, I now offer freely to everyone in my constellation, most importantly myself.

I work with a framework I call the Relationship Blueprint, a psycho-spiritual map of four heart-states: the Bleeding Heart, Caged Heart, Bleeding Caged Heart, and Wild Heart. These patterns reflect how we unconsciously relate in love until we build the awareness to choose differently. This method was born through years of personal transformation, deep study, and direct experience with what truly supports secure, fulfilling relationships. It brings together modern relationship science and soul-level healing, creating a path that honors both the nervous system and the heart. It evolves us into a new relationship experience of conscious coupling.